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04 Tuesday Oct 2022
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14 Thursday Jan 2021
Posted Broken, forgiveness, infidelity, Love, Marriage, relationship, Woman
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When you are recovering from an extramarital affair, you often hear that your marriage will not only survive but will actually be stronger. Is the person who said this a survivor of infidelity? Is the person who said this the cheater or cheated? Is the person who said this still whole?
I have healed, I have moved forward, I have forgiven but have I forgotten? Have we become stronger? Do we trust more? I don’t think so…
I have healed partially.
I have moved forward slightly.
I have forgiven hesitantly.
I have not forgotten…
This doesn’t make me feel stronger as a spouse. This doesn’t make me feel more trusting as a partner. This has not made us more whole. It has broken a piece of me and a piece of us that will never be the same. It will never be whole again.
Can we rebuild? Yes
Can we trust again? Possibly
Can we move forward and forget? Maybe
But will we ever be the same? No
08 Tuesday Dec 2020
Posted forgiveness, infidelity, Love, Marriage, relationship, Woman
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Don’t hold me to your standards…
If I am late coming home, I have not been with someone else…
If I am texting more often, I am not leaning on another man…
If I am searching someone on facebook, I am not trying to hook up…
If I am working long hours, I am not sleeping around…
If I am happier than usual, I am not finding joy elsewhere….
If I am quiet, I am not withdrawing from you…
If I am distracted, I am not giving my attention to another….
These are your practices, these are your habits, these are your expectations… I am not you.
19 Thursday Nov 2020
Posted Broken, Falling in love, forgiveness, heart, infidelity, Love, Marriage, Uncategorized, Woman
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All these years later, are you the man I fell in love with but have just lost who you are? Or did I fall in love with the image of a man that you put forth? I fell so desperately head over heels for you… So completely, so unconditionally. Did I find a good man that was true to his word or did I find a man who struggles with his own moral compass?
Lapse in judgement is what we chauked it up to be but I am wondering if it stems deeper.
Are you insecure? Are you unhappy? Are you unsatisfied? Or are you a liar? Were these behaviors a reflection of your character or an imperfection in your decision.
Irregardless… The pain is the same. Irregardless… The confusion is equivalent. Irregardless… The damage is extensive. So why ask? Why understand?
I am wanting to know so instead of spending a lifetime of looking over shoulder with you, I began picking up the pieces without you.
Or do I forgive? Or do I love without regard? Or do I stay with the strength needed to heal with you?
28 Wednesday Oct 2020
Posted Falling in love, Family, forgiveness, happiness, heart, infidelity, Love, Marriage, relationship, strength, Woman, women
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Tell me about when you first saw me… Was it my smile? Was it my legs? Was it my energy? That attracted you? That caught your eye? That made you want forever?
Tell me about when you fell in love… Was it immediate? Was it gradual? Was it one specific moment? Was it a tiny million things?
Tell me about our first kiss… Did it take your breath away? Did it leave you wanting more? Did it feel like home?
Tell me about what made you want to propose… Was it true love? Was it a sense of belonging? Was it out of commitment?
Tell me about when I almost died bringing our child into this world…Did your world collapse? Did you question tomorrow? Did you drop to your knees and pray? Did you promise me gratitude?
Tell me about when you first laid with her… Did you remove your wedding band? Did you think of me? Did you make promises? Did you regret?
Tell me about when I left…
28 Wednesday Oct 2020
Posted Fairytale, Falling in love, happiness, heart, Love, relationship, Uncategorized, women
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Do we only truly get one love?
One true love?
Where you feel you are coming home to the other half of your soul?
Is it possible to have that twice in a lifetime?
When we love does our love evolve? Can we fall as hard as we did the first time we loved or do we love twice as hard the second time around?
I fell in love twice, head over heels both times. Both times completely different but head over heels nonetheless. But did I fall in love only to find out you truly do only get one great love or did I fool my heart into loving greatly each time?
27 Tuesday Oct 2020
Posted forgiveness, heart, infidelity, Love, Marriage, relationship, Woman
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Is he capable?
Is good enough, good enough?
I was once asked if my husband, after infidelity, betrayal and verbal abuse, could even be capable of being what I need in this marriage. I didn’t have an answer. Is he? Can he? Can I?
Is he capable of being a strong, honest man that I need as a husband?
Can he even be the man I feel he can be to heal the betrayal?
Can I stay? Can I forgive? Can I be whole with him in my marriage?
I still don’t have the answer.
10 Wednesday Jun 2020
Posted Family, feminist, forgiveness, infidelity, Love, Marriage, Parenting, relationship, stepchild, Uncategorized, women
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Twelve years ago, I decided to stay…stay after a year of infidelity and stay after welcoming a child from the affair into my life. Stay and forgive…
Have I modeled strength for my girls, have I modeled forgiveness for my girls, have I modeled acceptance for my girls, have I modeled relisence for my girls? Or has my message that was once believed positive now come back as a negative to the young women I have raised? Will my grown women now resent that I stayed? Interpret my staying as a weakness rather than a strength? View my acceptance and defeat? I hope not but I am beginning to wonder. What will they take away from my unconditional love for the man I married? It’s easier to stay since he was so good to them…have I made the right decision? Discussion to be had!
05 Friday Jun 2020
Posted Broken, forgiveness, heart, infidelity, Love, Marriage, relationship, strength, Woman, women
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I love unconditionally…which I thought, at first, was common, typical, the norm…but I have learned over time that I am not the norm. You have all my love, until you don’t. And then you have none.
Saying that though, I have to admit that although I love unconditionally, my bar for expectations of love has the ability to move. A sliding scale, that can be raised or lowered depending on my interactions and experiences with you.
Loving my husband comes easy and I don’t expect much in return outside of love and respect back. Yet after going through hurt, lies and an affair…it is no longer enough to just be loved. I need to be loved with greatness, fullness, and wholeness. After another infidelity, it is no longer enough to be loved with greatness, fullness, and wholeness…my bar has raised…after another infidelity, your love alone is not enough. I need to feel like your priority, I need to feel your appreciation, your willingness to be selfless. With the last infidelity, I have to ask myself, is your remorse enough? Is your apology enough? Is your openness enough? And I have to say no…. Not alone, it is not enough.
My bar has been raised. I know now I need your remorse, your apology, your honesty, your surrender, your appreciation, your thoughtfulness, your patience, your kindness, your selflessness, your giving, your love and so much more. My bar has been raised.
21 Thursday May 2020
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When a man feels loved… He smiles from the inside out.
Posted by Smith | Filed under Fairytale, Falling in love, happiness, heart, Love, Marriage, relationship, Woman